Surviving as ‘The Other Woman’

Being ‘the other woman’ can be difficult.  Here’s how to survive it. Are you in a relationship with a man who is married to someone else?  That makes you ‘the other woman’.  Being the other woman more often than not ends in heartbreak, so on that note I encourage you to end it now.  However, you may have already fallen in love and you don’t know where to go from here.  Being in a relationship with a married man is a lot different than a regular relationship.  Here are some tips to help you survive as ‘the other woman’. Prepare to be Judged Telling your friends that you are dating a married man may not go over so well.  Dating a married man is a controversial subject.  Some people may call you immoral, greedy, or just a plain out b**ch.  You must prepare yourself to be judged by people that are close to you.  Just make sure you don’t allow yourself to get too upset by these comments.  You know why you’re in the relationship and really – that’s all that matters. It’s Exciting, But… I haven’t dated a married man, but I have friends who have.  The consensus is – that married men often have a lot of pent up sexual energy which makes for an amazing time in bed for you, the other woman.  Because he’s in a new relationship, he may be extremely romantic and attentive.  However, part of this is also because he’s doing something his wife doesn’t know about.  Part of the fun for him may be the thrill of not getting caught, and he’s playing this game at the expense of your emotions.  Be careful. Set Boundaries Because he is married, he will want to set the rules in the relationship – otherwise he risks his wife finding out.  While this is true, and secrecy is part of being the other woman, make sure you get to set some rules too.  And if he’s going home to a wife – you should definitely date other men.  This will help you keep perspective on the relationship you have, and maybe you’ll find a single man to date instead of this married on. No, He’s not going to Leave Chances are he is telling you he wants to leave his wife.  This rarely happens.  Don’t build up your hopes of a happy-ever-after with this man.  Keep a realistic outlook.  Leaving a spouse is complicated and it will probably never happen.

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Will he ever leave his wife?

Dating a Married Man? Will he Leave His Wife for you? Do you really want him to? So you’re dating a married man, are you?  He says he’s going to leave his wife, does he?  Although I can’t say it never happens – I can say that the chances are pretty slim that he will ever leave his wife for you.  If you’re in a relationship with a married man, here are some things to think about: You’re Probably Wasting Your Time I know that you’re in love with this man.  Why else would you be hanging on to him when you know he’s already married?  Sorry – this is going to hurt: He doesn’t love you as much as you love him.  If he has been telling you for a year now that he really is going to leave his wife; he’s not going to.  If he was really serious, he would have done it already.  Get out before you waste any more time. He’s a Liar It’s obvious already that he is a liar.  He is lying to his wife (and family) on a consistent basis, and chances are he’s lying to you too.  He may tell you that his wife is a horrible tyrant that he can’t stand – but if she was that terrible he would have left his wife a long time before you came around don’t you think?  And do you really think that he didn’t bring her roses on Valentine’s Day? He probably bought two identical bouquets that morning – one for her and one for you.  Be careful how much trust you put in to what this man says.  You know he’s comfortable living amidst a garden of lies. He Cheats on his Wife So you want him to leave his wife and marry you, is that it?  Just remember how seriously he took those sacred vows the first time.  I know that not every man who has cheated will cheat again, but you have already seen what this man does when his relationship with his wife gets tough – he came to find you.  It would be a wonderful romantic story if his first wife was truly not the one, and you are.  He would leave his wife and you would both live happily ever after.  However, if he was sure about wanting to trade in his wife for you – sure that you are ‘the one’ instead of her – it shouldn’t be a battle to get him to leave his wife

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