Exploring the perineum

A description of what the perineum is and how to derive maximum pleasure from this key erogenous zone for men, with your hands or with adult anal toys. The perineum is the area of skin directly underneath a man’s genital region. It’s a penny sized pleasure point is the prostate, which is found between the testicles and the anus. The perineum is also known as the male G-spot and isn’t all that difficult to find, but it does require a little patience. The best way to identify is to lie on your back with your legs elevated, or relax with your legs over the back of the sofa. Ways to play To start exploring this pleasure centre of nerve endings, use your index and middle fingertips, and gently rub, stroke or press your perineum, trying various sensations and pressures. You can also use a specially designed adult anal sex toy, but take it easy, and don’t overdo it, it’s a sensitive spot. Perineum massage can work equally as effectively with just a simple cotton bud, but this is best massaged by a willing partner who can stimulate you with greater accuracy. If you prefer, you can also use your other hand to explore other parts of your body.  You’ll soon discover what feels good. If you decide to explore with adult anal toys, gently massage the area with the dome shaped toy, or alternatively have your partner massage you with the male anal toy. If you use a vibrating male anal toy make sure it has a multi-speed controller because the sensations can be very intense and you may need to take it easy at first. If you have a partner that enjoys to give oral sex, lucky you!  Why not have her give you a blow job while stimulating your prostate. Just place your hands against the back of a sofa or lean against the wall, bending at a 90-degree angle. Spread your legs apart and your woman can blow you as she kneels in front of you. Enjoy the sensations of the blowjob, and towards the end of the session when you are fully aroused, ask her to place a finger or knuckle on your perineum, pressing firmly in a pumping motion. This will add mightily to the effects of your orgasm.

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Surviving as ‘The Other Woman’

Being ‘the other woman’ can be difficult.  Here’s how to survive it. Are you in a relationship with a man who is married to someone else?  That makes you ‘the other woman’.  Being the other woman more often than not ends in heartbreak, so on that note I encourage you to end it now.  However, you may have already fallen in love and you don’t know where to go from here.  Being in a relationship with a married man is a lot different than a regular relationship.  Here are some tips to help you survive as ‘the other woman’. Prepare to be Judged Telling your friends that you are dating a married man may not go over so well.  Dating a married man is a controversial subject.  Some people may call you immoral, greedy, or just a plain out b**ch.  You must prepare yourself to be judged by people that are close to you.  Just make sure you don’t allow yourself to get too upset by these comments.  You know why you’re in the relationship and really – that’s all that matters. It’s Exciting, But… I haven’t dated a married man, but I have friends who have.  The consensus is – that married men often have a lot of pent up sexual energy which makes for an amazing time in bed for you, the other woman.  Because he’s in a new relationship, he may be extremely romantic and attentive.  However, part of this is also because he’s doing something his wife doesn’t know about.  Part of the fun for him may be the thrill of not getting caught, and he’s playing this game at the expense of your emotions.  Be careful. Set Boundaries Because he is married, he will want to set the rules in the relationship – otherwise he risks his wife finding out.  While this is true, and secrecy is part of being the other woman, make sure you get to set some rules too.  And if he’s going home to a wife – you should definitely date other men.  This will help you keep perspective on the relationship you have, and maybe you’ll find a single man to date instead of this married on. No, He’s not going to Leave Chances are he is telling you he wants to leave his wife.  This rarely happens.  Don’t build up your hopes of a happy-ever-after with this man.  Keep a realistic outlook.  Leaving a spouse is complicated and it will probably never happen.

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Will he ever leave his wife?

Dating a Married Man? Will he Leave His Wife for you? Do you really want him to? So you’re dating a married man, are you?  He says he’s going to leave his wife, does he?  Although I can’t say it never happens – I can say that the chances are pretty slim that he will ever leave his wife for you.  If you’re in a relationship with a married man, here are some things to think about: You’re Probably Wasting Your Time I know that you’re in love with this man.  Why else would you be hanging on to him when you know he’s already married?  Sorry – this is going to hurt: He doesn’t love you as much as you love him.  If he has been telling you for a year now that he really is going to leave his wife; he’s not going to.  If he was really serious, he would have done it already.  Get out before you waste any more time. He’s a Liar It’s obvious already that he is a liar.  He is lying to his wife (and family) on a consistent basis, and chances are he’s lying to you too.  He may tell you that his wife is a horrible tyrant that he can’t stand – but if she was that terrible he would have left his wife a long time before you came around don’t you think?  And do you really think that he didn’t bring her roses on Valentine’s Day? He probably bought two identical bouquets that morning – one for her and one for you.  Be careful how much trust you put in to what this man says.  You know he’s comfortable living amidst a garden of lies. He Cheats on his Wife So you want him to leave his wife and marry you, is that it?  Just remember how seriously he took those sacred vows the first time.  I know that not every man who has cheated will cheat again, but you have already seen what this man does when his relationship with his wife gets tough – he came to find you.  It would be a wonderful romantic story if his first wife was truly not the one, and you are.  He would leave his wife and you would both live happily ever after.  However, if he was sure about wanting to trade in his wife for you – sure that you are ‘the one’ instead of her – it shouldn’t be a battle to get him to leave his wife

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Is he just Jealous? Or is he controlling?

Sometimes jealous men become controlling.  Is it happening to you? Everybody gets jealous sometimes.  When your man gets jealous because he just met your co-worker who is hotter than Brad Pitt and 6 years younger, it can actually be an ego-booster.  He actually thinks you have a chance with this guy!  Thanks Babe! However, jealousy can easily get out of hand to become controlling.  This often happens over time, and you may not see it evolving.  Here are some clues that your man is TOO jealous; your man is controlling. You Want Everyone I’m not saying you do actually want everyone, but he thinks you do.  I have first-hand experience with this one.  Say you’re sitting in the movie theatre before the movie starts.  You’re sitting near the back, and another couple walks in.  You watch them move to their seats, and he says “Oh, you’re into that guy are you? Quit staring. You want me to leave?”.  You might reassure him that you don’t want that guy, you were just ‘people watching’.  If this type of behavior is going on, you might as well never go out in public together.  This is not jealousy.  Your man is controlling and you don’t need it. Forbids You to Talk to Other Men Many men and women are friends with no sexual side to the relationship.  If you have male friends, it’s easy to understand how it may make him uneasy when you go out one-on-one with them.   This is understandable, and there are ways to ease his insecurities.  However, if he outright forbids you to see or talk to them, we have crossed the line from your man being jealous.  Your man is controlling. He gets Jealous of Your Parents/Family/Friends This is one of the biggest signs that he has crossed onto the controlling side.  While it is more understandable that he may be jealous of your male friends or good-looking guys you run into in public, it not acceptable for him to be jealous of any relationships with your parents, friends and family.  These people are the support system of your life and will be there even if one day he is not.  He may start to say things like “it seems like you love your Dad more than me” or “why do you always call your sister before me?”.  It is okay to love your family and friends.  He should not be jealous.  At this point, your man is controlling.

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Broken Heart? You Can Get Through It

A Broken Heart Hurts.  How to Get Over it Quickly Getting your heart broken hurts.  A lot.  Right now it may seem like you will never get over this terrible feeling.  Your confidence is low, your stomach feels sick, and there’s a tight feeling in your chest.  I promise you – it will end.  Here are some tips for getting over a broken heart faster. Grieve While it’s appropriate to act like you’re fine at work or other big events, make sure you do take the time to grieve properly.  It’s okay to break down.  Write in your journal, look at the things that remind you of him and just let out a good cry.  People who let themselves grieve get over the grief faster. Surround Yourself With Friends One of the most important parts of getting over a broken heart is to surround yourself with people who love you.  Almost everyone has been there at one point in their lives, and it will help you to hear some of their stories.  Being around your friends and family will also help to bring your spirits up and take your mind off of what has happened. Fill Your Together Time You will find yourself thinking things like ‘right now we would normally be watching our favourite show together’, or ‘right now he would normally be calling me on his way home from work’.  Specific times of the day where you would normally be together are definitely some of the hardest times to deal with.  Make a date with your friends, or go window shopping at the mall.  Distract yourself until that time is over and you will feel less lonely. Do Something For You Getting out of a relationship is the perfect time to do something just for you.  Is there something you’ve always thought of doing but have never gotten around to it?  Join a cooking class, or take up a new hobby.  Focusing time on yourself will build your confidence up and also get you out meeting new people and enjoying yourself. Be Active Take up yoga, go jogging, or join a pick-up volleyball team in the evenings.  One of the best ways to relieve mental stress is with physical activity.  Physical activity releases endorphins in your body which elevate both mood and energy.  Plus, it won’t hurt to have your body in top form when you do go back out on the dating scene. 😉

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Is my Man Cyber-Cheating?

What’s Cyber-Cheating? Should I be Worried about my Man? Constant access to internet, cell phones and social media has founded an entirely new breed of cheating on your partner: Cyber-Cheating.  Cyber-Cheating is a non-physical relationship kept up over intimate texts, emails, photo exchanges, and even talking face-to-face over the computer on programs such as Skype. Although there is no physical contact – in most cases they never actually meet in person – it can be equally damaging to a relationship as a physical cheat would be, if not more. With websites galore for online dating, it’s not hard to meet new people online.  Some taken men will open up an account on a dating website to pass time at work, or flirt ‘harmlessly’ to boost his ego. While it may seem harmless in the beginning, he may end up connecting with one or more of these women.  It begins with a few emails back and forth, then on to texts or phone calls.  Many will go so far as to talk dirty online over Skype and even get naked for each other. It can be hard to deal with for a woman to find out her man has been keeping up a relationship with someone he has never even met.  Is it is cheating?  In most cases, yes – it is cheating. Even if he hasn’t gone so far as to Skype naked, he is still using his energy and intimacy on someone other than you.  Here are some things to look for if you suspect your man may be cyber-cheating. Decrease in sex drive. Emotionally your man is elsewhere.  He will want sex less, and put less effort into it when it does happen. Petty Arguments Any secret relationship causes stress, and he may start arguing about insignificant things.  He may also be trying to find reasons to be upset with you to justify his behaviour. Long Periods of Time on Cell or Computer People spend a lot of time on the computer these days, but if he’s closing you out of the room and spending hours on the computer – be suspicious. Defensive Ask him why he’s on the phone or computer so much lately.  If he is defensive or can’t tell you straight away he may be hiding something. Passwords Does his cell phone and PC suddenly have a password needed to gain access? If you don’t have these passwords he may be cyber-cheating.

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